What Is Style Confidence?
If you have been following me for a while, you will know that I am a huge advocate of supporting people to feel confident in what they wear. This week included Random Acts Of Kindness Day. I think it is fantastic to have a day that celebrates kindness, but I wish for a time when people will support each other positively all the time. So, before I go on, I would encourage you to tell someone they look fabulous if you like something they are wearing. All too often, we are reluctant to speak to strangers, but you really could make someone’s day. Appearances can be deceptive, and that person may be hanging on by a thread; your comment could make all the difference.
Style confidence is more about perception than anything else. The French usually get it right with a French Capsule wardrobe. If you feel you look good then, usually you do. There is so much pressure from the outside to look a certain way, but often, the people with the most style confidence do not look like that. So what makes the difference to your style confidence? First, you have to go back to basics.
Going Back To Basics
You can not get style confidence if your overall morale is low. That said, in turn, feeling confident in what your wear can boost your overall confidence. To get started, you need to find what YOU love again. Not what your partner, friend, or fanny down the road likes, but what YOU like. So much of low morale comes from outside influences, so the first thing you need to do is find out who you are again.
Start by creating two Pinterest Boards. If you have not used Pinterest before, check out this video for instructions on how to get started – Pinterest For Beginners. Create one board for styles you admire and one for colours you like. Take time, several weeks pinning styles and colours you like for inspiration. After a while, you will start to see a pattern emerge. There will likely be repeats of similar styles and colours on both boards. This is the start of you finding your style confidence.
Finding Your Happy Place
Once you have spent some time with your Pinterest boards, you can then use that info to start building a capsule wardrobe of clothes that will have you looking and feeling confident. Take a look at your Pinterest Board and choose seven or eight colours from it to build the start of your wardrobe. Now, this does not have to happen overnight, but by selecting a limited number of colours, you will find it much easier to put outfits together. Not only that, but another tip is to limit an outfit to under three colours. It is a simple but effective way to make any outfit look cohesive.
Next, consider the styles you have chosen. Pick out the ones that are best suited to your lifestyle. How often are you likely to wear a garment like it, and how much use will you get out of it? Be careful and intentional about anything you add to your wardrobe. At this stage, you do not want to feel guilty for buying something that you never wear. Finding your happy place is all about finding what you love, what works for you and fits with your lifestyle.
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Building Your Style Confidence
Spend time building your style confidence. Consider joining my Facebook community, a private place to give and receive feedback on anything wardrobe or style-related. Most importantly, be kind to yourself. Many women I see have distorted views of their bodies. It is such a shame that most of them do not feel confident to make the most of what they have. You can follow some simple style ideas to help you make the most of your body shape, style, and gain back your confidence.
- Choose darker shades for areas of your body you are unhappy with and lighter for places you are satisfied with.
- Avoid anything shiny, like velour or satin, to hide lumps and bumps because even the darker colours will highlight what you are trying to disguise.
- Choose colours based on your natural colouring. For example, if you have dark hair and pale skin, you can wear dark and pale colours together. You can wear darker and brighter colours if you have dark skin and hair. If you have light skin and hair, choose predominantly paler shades. Similar applies to anything in-between.
- Choose shades based on if you are cool or warm-toned. Look on the side of your wrist; if you have green veins, you are warm-toned, and blue veins, you are cool-toned.
- Avoid wearing anything baggy, or with lots of detail over an area you want to disguise. You will either be drawing attention to it or making yourself look bigger than you are.
- Skim areas you are not happy with rather than drowning them in the material.
- Find people of a similar size, shape and age to you and follow them. Get your inspiration.
Further Help With Your Style Confidence
So I hope you have found this post helpful. If you are worried about your teen, or you are a teenager that needs style confidence, check out a capsule wardrobe for a teenage girl and the teen capsule wardrobe for ideas and inspiration. The perfect Capsule Wardrobe takes time to build, so will your style confidence. Get the help of a good, trusted friend along the way. Also, consider booking in a FREE consultation if you need further assistance, or download my Capsule Wardrobe Guide to help you get started. Let me know how you get on; I would love to hear from you.